I don’t understand how wanting to use feminine pronouns for someone femme-presenting and “wanting to be a woman” is “forcing an agenda”? Is respect an agenda now?
Also, it seems like it would give her dysphoria to use he/him pronouns on someone who wants to be the opposite gender (although I realize pronouns =/= gender)
There’s a plenty of ideological reasons, but I think it is partly the environment being so stressful makes it harder for people to be considerate to new viewpoints or people.
It takes more energy to be intolerant
They don’t respect trans people, and they view using the correct pronouns as being “forced” to show respect. Pretty much just people being cruel as always
Conservatives want a strict gender binary. They dont even like women wearing pants and would love to go back to the days when cross dressing was illegal.
In other words conservatives are the ones with the agenda. Trans people just want to live their lives in peace
They’ve picked trans people as a “danger” so people don’t realise what the true dangers are (like having a fascist president, for example).
I have a friend named Mark that goes by Eddie. If you call Eddie “Mark” he will get offended because while “Mark” is Eddie’s given name it isn’t how he sees himself. Eddie prefers a different name.
Im not sure what the difference between my buddy Eddie and the situation you are talking about as it seems to be the issue is whether you should call people by their preferred name or not.
Because a pronoun is not a name.
There really isn’t a difference though. Calling her a him isn’t less offensive than calling Eddie Mark.
One reason why pronouns exist is that you don’t need to know someone in order to be able to refer to them. Forcing people to use someone’s preferred pronouns defeats the purpose.
Once someone has let you know how they prefer to be referred to then you are just being rude if you choose to do otherwise. No one is forcing you to do anything but when you choose to be impolite shouldnot expect to be praised for that choice.
If you’re genuinely curious, I can give you a glimpse into their rationality (though I strongly disagree with it).
Say, for just a brief moment, that you consider trans people to be mentally ill. Calling them by their preferred pronouns would be like giving a drink to an alcoholic–you’d be encouraging it, which would be to their detriment. And worse, you’d be liable to whatever diety might be displeased with your actions that caused someone else to continue in their sin.
Of course, that only works if you have a very poor understanding of both gender and theology. The real reason the bigots don’t like trans people is because it challenges their worldview, which is uncomfortable. And instead of facing that head on, they’d rather try to justify their current view.
The Oatmeal wrote a great info comic on this.
