A marriage is a mutual responsibility of the people in it and no one else. Only those two people are even capable of upholding the promises they made to each other. If one or both of them failed to do so that is on them. And again, if they failed to help you understand that it is not your fault, that means that in addition to not being able to keep their own damn promises, they also failed to raise you properly.
Probably not, it depends on what you did. I can (almost) guarantee it was one of two situations though:
it wasn’t actually that bad.
If it was bad enough that you did manage to actually grievously harm or even kill someone, you were almost definitely put in a situation / given access to something no sane adult should or would have ever allowed a 6 year old child to have access to (such as a gun, or being in a position to knock someone off a cliff). It is the responsibility of adults to make sure that 6 year old children are unable to harm other people while they are still learning that their actions have consequences.
As for your current everyday life, I need you to understand that an inferiority / guilt complex is in itself a burden on everyone around you. I once dated a guy with a similar guilt complex and he was impossible to deal with because I kept having to constantly shore up his self esteem for him.
If you really want to do something that benefits other people, start by working on yourself and your self esteem. You may be able to try self-help books, videos, personal mantras, etc, but if you’re not making any headway with those you likely need professional therapy. You are no good to anyone (and even a bit of a drag), if you continue on with this mindset.
Oh, and it’s also the responsibility of adults to raise children who don’t think or act like this. If the people who raised you have even subtly hinted to you that this is your fault in some way, they’re only doing it to avoid having to take responsibility for failing to prevent a six-year old child from causing irreparable harm to something. That means they failed twice, and they did both as adults.
You’re still stuck fixing it though, not because you deserve it but just by way of it not being possible for anyone else to.
Edit: I’m in a bit of a mood about my own parents right now, so if anybody else wants me to roast their parents lmk it’ll probably be very cathartic.
we had some trouble one morning when I was too tired to drive trying to get the dog to the vet. we kept ordering pet Ubers and the drivers kept showing up and canceling when they saw we had the dog. they kept saying they just saw the better rate and didn’t realize it was because we had a dog with us. except it took like 10 minutes each time we had to try and get a new driver and we were trying to make it to the appointment on time at risk of them canceling the appointment and charging us a fee. is Uber going to reimburse me for the missed appointment fee? it didn’t come to that in the end but it was very stressful.
I get a lot of compliments on my use of the English language and I absolutely cannot stand prescriptivists (among other pedants).
Family bathrooms are also great. Once flew with my intellectually disabled sister who fucking fingerpainted a rest stop stall on a previous trip when my mother broke her arm chasing her to the bathroom and she was left to her own devices. This time I brought gloves and wet wipes and there was a little suite kinda thing. I didn’t need the child size toilet or the breastfeeding couch but the nice big accessible area around the adult toilet was good to have. She wasn’t constipated that time so I didn’t have to stop her from digging it out manually again but man; if I’d had to I totally could’ve! 10/10 would use a family bathroom again.
Depends on how far out you go.
They probably have a chauffer drive them out of the city to a smaller airport while their personal assistant makes sure they get everything else done on the car on the way.
Yeah I was gonna say they’re actually up there with cigarettes apparently, including being addictive, somehow.
That’s pretty fucking funny actually.
Yeah but it’s a -10 to have a panic attack if I don’t wait the full cooldown period.
Travel mug full of herbal tea and a rubiks cube.
I mean a better analogy would be single / limited-use items considering it can’t really be used after it comes out of the recipient. There’s a different joke about capitalism in there somewhere but I’m getting sleepy so good night!
Fuck no they’re not doing it in my body they can have the uterus though. I specifically said I can appreciate that miracle of life shit when it’s not in MY body.
Oh it’s super high risk (that’s why it can only be done when the doctors are allowed to do what they have to to keep the mother safe) and they actually take it back out when they’re done!
But she and her husband had received a crushing diagnosis: Their baby’s brain was not developing properly, upending their wanted pregnancy. Medical experts warned moving forward would likely mean her son would know only pain and suffering. The Minnesota couple wasn’t going to take that chance.
Yeah so it turns out most people don’t get 6 months into ultrasounds and painting nurseries and making lists of names and planning showers and gender reveal parties then suddenly just decide “…nah!” It’s usually a woman you’re making carry around a dead baby that’s also probably a threat to her life by way of hemorrhage or sepsis
Weirdly enough I only had my tubes taken out instead of my whole uterus because I thought it would maybe be cool to offer it to some other woman (I can appreciate the “beauty of life” or whatever happening in somebody else’s body). But that kind of program (and those programs do exist, there have been live births from transplanted uteri!) can only exist if the doctors and their patients have full decision-making power over what happens during the process. No doctor in their right mind is going to start that kind of process if there’s a possibility that when something goes wrong (and things always go wrong) the government will just step in and tell them it’ll strip their license for saving moms life (especially since without mom, there’s almost definitely no baby anyway). So it was a nice thought, but I guess I’m keeping it unless my IUD punctures it or something (I just got cramps again tonight for the first time in months too, and preventing them is the main reason I kept the IUD!).
Not military, but a lot of nurses have been sharing advice on what to do if ICE shows up
I mean you’re not… literally wrong. There’s a lot about the use of the US military that is fucked. But there’s a lot else they currently do or even could be doing if some reforms happened that would be more helpful than the shitty things they do. But most importantly, your bringing it up here only serves to derail a different discussion that is important in its own right, and that this thread was created to discuss. The most important thing is that you’re not helping.
One of the cooks downstairs went on a rant the other day about how they’re willing to risk their lives to defend their country why can’t everybody just shut up and let them do it. Hyped up the whole damn cafeteria talking about their lgbt loved ones and how if you can’t even bring yourself to love someone how they are you at least need to mind your business. t’s nice hearing some ranting in that direction for once.
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Since I’ve had my IUD it’s super sporadic and sometimes I kinda forget and then last week I wasn’t even up trying to pass meds or lift patients or anything I was literally just sitting suicide watch and just doubled over in the chair wondering if I was about to involuntarily expel my IUD, the world’s biggest shart, or both simultaneously. I wound up begging a coworker for a break and finding a bathroom off the unit to destroy.