No, it’s not odd for people to share their religious perspective. I do, however, find it a little odd for people to offer it as specific advice for how to cope with grief to randos on the internet whose beliefs you have no idea about. Hence my suggestion of the more general ‘believe in something.’
Yeah, I’ve had a lot of medical problems in my life that make me more dependent upon others than most so I dunno if that means I felt it more keenly because of that or if that’s just how it goes for everyone.
I will say, re:fear, that once you get past the initial wave of grief it’s not really a bad thing, it’s just remembering them and being sad that they’re not there, and like anything it lessens with time. I wouldn’t say I look forward to it or anything like that, but while for the first little bit it kind of wiped me out, now it’s kind of like nostalgia. Instead of deeply feeling that freshly-severed connection it’s more like fond remembrance now.
Yeah, I think it’s kind of the same for me, I’ve noticed that I have some like aesthetic appreciation for the male body that I either didn’t have when I was younger or didn’t acknowledge because it was the 80s and that sort of thing got aggressively quashed by society (especially in high school; I knew of kids who had gotten beaten up in the bathroom for it, etc.) But yeah, same, I dunno if it’s just something that was always there or something that’s kind of come up since I slapped that asexual label on myself so now it’s safe to entertain the idea because nothing will ever come of it. Brains are weird, man.
What is with these vague, open-ended questions with no effort put in to try to provide any detail or literally anything to engage with?
Now instead of answering your question I have to ask a bunch of questions myself:
Context matters, friend. Please provide some.
Sure, I get that it helps people and I don’t begrudge them that. Just seems like a weirdly specific thing to add to a list of things to deal with grief. ‘Believe in something’ I would get, ‘Believe in this specific thing’ struck me as a little odd.
And thanks, it was a rough 10 years, but I’m doing much better now.
Yeah that’s exactly what’s going on here, I’ve seen it happen so much these past few months, and all this kowtowing is disgusting. Not that I ever thought particularly highly of giant corporations in the first place.
‘Rich guy thinks thing designed to make rich guys even richer is great, to the surprise of literally no one ever.’
Or, alternatively
‘Rich guy kowtows to fascist regime in the hopes of being allowed to continue getting richer.’
Take your pick.
you believe in God, that this whole thing wasn’t all for nothing
You don’t have to believe in god to believe that this whole thing wasn’t all for nothing. I don’t believe in god and I got through the death of my mother in 2009, father in 2014, and best friend of ~25 years in 2019 (a period during which I was a pretty committed atheist.) It’s enough to know that their lives had meaning to me and to others, and that they would want me to carry on with my life rather than wallowing in sorrow and grief.
Badly, like most people who have a good relationship with their parents I imagine. My mother died in 2009 and my father in 2014. The first one was rough, she was unexpectedly diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and only lasted a few months after that. The second one was fucking brutal though, I was the one who had to make the call to pull him off of life support (he had a DNR from pretty much the moment mom died), on the phone, from ~1500 miles away.
They hit me very different, for pretty obvious reasons, but also some not-obvious ones. Plus that was further complicated by the fact that despite loving my parents very much (they were flawed like everyone else, but honestly they were the best parents a guy could ask for) I never cried at either of their deaths. I didn’t get to attend the service for either one (not that there was much of one). But it would hit me out of the blue for years. I still dream about them sometimes. But it wasn’t until my best friend of ~25 years (and long-time roommate) died in 2019 (it was a rough 10 years) that it really all hit me, I felt utterly alone and rudderless in the world for a good while afterwards.
I’m doing better now thankfully. You have no choice but to keep on keeping on, but now carrying that weight. It doesn’t ever go away, but it does get lighter with time.
That, I’m afraid, is the nature of technology: it makes everything easier, even the stuff you really wish it didn’t.
The one in which I dreamed about these vampiric creatures that traveled between realities by making people dream about them. I had just dreamed about the entire species and then knew I was waking up. In that moment between sleep and wakefulness I was desperately flailing around searching for any way to kill myself to save the world from being taken over by these things. Fortunately I couldn’t find anything before I realized it was a dream, but the idea that if I had had some sharp object nearby I definitely would’ve tried to shove it into my skull without realizing was utterly terrifying.
Respect them for who they are, and listen to them if they tell you you’re fucking it up, just like you would with anyone else. It’s almost as if trans people are just people. ;)
I’ve heard it said before that the limitation on empire size is about 2 weeks. That is to say, if it takes longer than 2 weeks to get a message from the capital to the frontier it causes instability. So, it’s more about time than absolute physical size.
It did, but I would love to see more of it.
It’s been a while since I was in the job market (I’ve been disabled almost 15 years), but the advice I consistently received was ‘call them’. If you apply online or file a resume or even drop one off in person, you’re just one name in a sea of applicants. File the resume, give it 3 days or so, then call them. Talk to the hiring manager if you can. Tell them who you are and what you’re looking for. Find out if they have a timetable on when they’re hiring. If they don’t give you one keep calling them every few days until they hire you or say ‘no thanks’. At that point you go from being one rando among dozens or more to being that one really persistent person who seemed super interested in the job and whose name is now memorable when they get around to looking at your resume.
Out of curiosity, what is it you use it for? I pretty much only use it for SMS, for which it is kinda janky and unstable. Doesn’t always get contact names, doesn’t load everything from conversations, misses messages that I sent or that were sent to me, crashes if I scroll too fast, etc. I have Connect installed just to use SMS (cause I hate typing on my phone keyboard), but I’m honestly not even sure what the base software does.
Yes, I fucking love this show.
There are a few good ones I’d love to see, but at the top of my list are Firefly and Sense8.
But these are all fun chill bumper stickers so it at least seems like the benign kind of crazy, which is about my speed.
LOL, banned after only a day, huh?