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Cake day: March 18th, 2024

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  • I had to a video taped “interview” almost a decade ago where I had to dress up and then verbally answer questions which I didn’t know ahead of time. It was awful and one of the most degrading things I have ever done. The best thing was I had a survey afterwards about how the experience went. I gave it all the lowest score and wrote that I no longer want to work on a company that would put me through this.

    It is going to be even worse with an AI Interviewer. What is the point of that? What are they going to learn that is different from a resume or written summary? This is the most dystopian thing I have seen in a long time.


  • If you are really interested in learning more about infidelity I would suggest you read / listen to Dan Savages’s columns / podcast. Unsurprisingly there are a lot of different calls and discussions about fidelity and monogamy. I would also suggest you read Ester Perel groundbreaking novel The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

    To answer your question directly infidelities are fairly common because monogamy is difficult and society typically puts a lot of stress and pressure on monogamy that makes it even more difficult. The foremost is the idea that monogamy as a default setting and that one person can be everything for one person sexually, emotionally etc… So we have a situation where two people are assuming that their partner will be the only person they can be attracted to, the one person that can fulfill all their emotional needs and will have to be a perfect roommate / life mate. This coupled with the idea that you have to be perfect at monogamy or you are a complete failure at it. So you have a hard situation and hard expectations so people slip and some people who slip on something small (a micro-cheating which is a ridiculous concept) they go all the way. All these expectations are common in “Straight-land” while those in “queer-land” have a different set of expectation that work better for everyone.

    We should all make monogamy an regular opt-in conversation for relationships (I would suggest ~6 months in when you go exclusive and then at most every 5 years). Moreover, we should understand our monogamist partner finds other people attractive and chooses to not pursue anything not that they don’t find anyone else attractive. Finally, we should understand a our partner needs friends, hobbies and confidant who are not us to rely on. Until that happens “cheating” will likely remain something that happens fairly regularity

















  • All the things I do for fun and hobbies I would do a lot more. Which would likely be the following:

    • Exercise (running in the warm months and skiing in the cold)
    • TTRPGs (I might move from 1 day of the week into two, and assuming everyone else has the same deal play in-person instead of digitally)
    • Reading (books and more books)

    But mostly I would work on living the permaculture / herbalism fantasy.

    • Do a lot more herbal formulation and
    • Maybe open the small apothecary to sell things at Art fairs and other makers markets.
    • Turn my urban yard into a full food forest to help grow some of my own food, and herbs. (I want to have an urban oasis of edible trees, bushes and other useful plants)
    • Volunteer more a local prairie restoration group that I have worked with in the past
    • Finally spend some time gorilla gardening on open lots and sides of alleyways around my neighborhood to spread the plant love.