Shadowrun is old now, man

That’s a great question!

Easy for a man to get custody of the kids? What world do you live in?

My friend’s ex repeatedly crashed her car while drunk with their daughter in the car and he had to fight a pretty much non-stop court battle for over a decade to maintain his 50%.

(they’re both wrong)

Is it though? According to the book The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, conflict is a sign of a trusting team, and conflict is a necessity for that team to achieve commitment.

I can attempt to explain how it it’s unclear

This graphic is from the book:

Dude your mom feels like bait

Trolling and disagreeing are not the same thing.

I am someone who “loves to disagree”, as in most of my engagement on lemmy is disagreeing. But that’s because I speak up when I feel like speaking up is needed, and when I feel like it’s needed is when what I believe is not being said.

Another idea is an asking system that compiles answers from the web while also posting the question here. Gives the benefit of immediate answers while also populating the fediverse.

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As a libertarian I appreciate their government’s not razing all that shit, and just letting people do what they need to do.

A friend of mine is homeless in SF. His mental health has dropped significantly ever since the city forcibly moved him from the spot where he was camping to a shelter. He says he was doing much better in the tent than in the shelter.

There’s a place in Denver called Rodeo Dental that always cracks me up when I see it

Each individual is facing the following choice in life:

• sacrifice to save the planet, and fail
• or not

People want to immediately jump to “if everyone would just …”

Nobody is looking at an “everyone does X” button. People only have their “I do X” button available.

So that is literally the answer to your question. Very few people would sacrifice the civilization to eat a cheeseburger. But nobody has that choice or that power in their hands. Their choice is eat the cheeseburger or not, and the survival of civilization stays rigidly the same between those two choices.

We should have a community called /c/originalshowerthoughts

Achievement unlocked: Talking Trash

Successfully communicate at least one thought in a trashy neighbor’s native tongue.

That’s a good point about the Peter Principle. What I’m referring to though is more like the ladder of existence. The hierarchy of stations in life.

Earlier I was a homeless man. Now I’m a single guy living in a small apartment, saving a tiny bit of money from a pretty hard and low-paid job. If I push a bit more I can be a single guy in a medium apartment, with a car, and a slightly higher-paying job.

But not a new job within the same company, just some totally different job that of a totally different nature. Hopefully more meaningful. Right now I’m making retail wages and doing retail work, so low pay for low meaning. But hopefully I can move up to something like social worker salary (not high in the overall scheme of things, but higher pay than retail work).

That corporate ladder is a microcosm of the overall ladder I’m describing. In both hierarchies successful execution, smooth surfing, is the path to the next layer up. And the responsibilities get more complex.

And yes, I appreciate you reminding me to face it and communicate, instead of just backing away silently, when I don’t feel that I’m ready to face the problems of the next level.

Growth requires discomfort and a big part of that discomfort is taking the risk of trying things I feel like I can’t do.

One of my problems in my career is I interview extremely well. I’ve talked my way into jobs I can’t do, then failed badly.

And it’s not by lying or anything. I just sound really smart because I’m a good talker and sound extremely confident.

But interviews are sprints and jobs are marathons, and I’ve burned myself by failing to acknowledge what I can and can’t do.

lol true dat. Thanks for reminding me I wasn’t even thinking about holiday uptick in activity.

However I will say it’s easier than being on the street, and if I go long enough at this level without fucking up, I get to level up to someplace even easier.

The thing that really scares me though is the way the problems change at the higher levels. The current problems get easy enough and new problems become visible and those problems are so complex. I like simple, even if it’s hard. I used to run long distance races. I love pushing into a simple but really hard problem like that. But complexity really scares me.

I’ve been working retail for the past year and I have gotten so much less reactive.

It’s really hard to toe the line between allowing disrespect, and being disrespectful myself.

One of my main goals for myself right now is to be able to hold my boundaries without getting loud and unpleasant. Just quietly, gently.

Oh my god this is so true.

I recently heard “Another Day in Paradise” by Phil Collins, which I hadn’t heard since the 80s when I was a kid. It immediately brought back memories of being at home and Mom playing that song a lot, with just the two of us in the house, after Dad left.

Looking back at those memories through my adult eyes (I have a nearly-photographic memory and can vividly remember even ancient memories as if I’m still there), I can see my mom’s sadness and loneliness.

And then I realize she was my age. She had a little five year old boy. She was alone, unsure what to do. Putting on a smiling face not just for me but for herself too, cleaning the house with that song blasting. Like, I can watch the memories like video and I can see the heartache I couldn’t see back then.

I just want to go back in time, wrap my arms around her, and hold her tight.