It’s driving me crazy. Partner on phone, playing videos and games while the TV is running some YouTube reaction stuff.

I wear noise cancelling headphones all day at home because it’s just too much. The volume is so high I can hear it through a closed door. My PC is in the same room as the TV and I can’t even concentrate on a tutorial on how to do some editing stuff.

Partner is also suffering from depression so every freaking time I begged to please turn the tv off, it’s just ended in a 30 minute therapy session at home on how I can improve myself.

Anyone in a similar situation?

  • .Donuts@lemmy.worldEnglish
    571·
    1 day ago

    Partner is also suffering from depression so every freaking time I begged to please turn the tv off, it’s just ended in a 30 minute therapy session at home on how I can improve myself.

    Eh, what? What does being depressed have to do with you asking to turn off the TV? I feel like they are using this against you, but there’s not a lot of info to go by.

    Perhaps a solution would be to get them headphones, too.

    • flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      41·
      16 hours ago

      I get real mad when people use ADHD as an excuse to be an inconsiderate bag of dicks.

      I prefer to be interacting with several forms of media, yes. But I don’t need the sound up on all of them, and if I did, I’d put on my BT headphones and mix the sound levels individually. What an asshole.

      • SupaTuba@lemm.ee
        3·
        16 hours ago

        Yep. I have ADHD and I’d never subject someone else to the cooking video I forgot about, with the tutorial I’m watching, with the Spotify playlist I forgot was on, while the menu track plays on the game I was about to play.

        This would be torture for any other human. Even if I, with my ADHD, walked into a room that sounded just like what I just described, I’d be incredibly unable to concentrate. I can only tune out a cacophony of my own doing.

        Also, OP, I have misophonia, and this is not that. You are rightfully unable to handle this level of noise. Misophonia is more an intolerance to certain specific sounds. Like I’m 100% peaceful but random kissing noises and smacking make me imagine driving a dagger into someone’s chest. That sort of thing.

        • flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          21·
          16 hours ago

          The boyfriend (also ADHD) and I both have it for people making eating sounds, like eating with their mouths open. Your mentioning smacking made me think of that. Agh!

          • deo@lemmy.dbzer0.com
            1·
            15 hours ago

            my boyfriend and my mom both have that. makes for some fun dinners, since my dad is a super loud eater (tbh, even i get annoyed by my dad eating, lol). luckily, my mom trained me up in the ways of polite eating from like day one, so no friction on my behalf!